After telling all my birth stories I thought about what I wish I could have changed. One of those things was preparing a birth plan. A birth plan is a great way to write down everything you want or don’t want to take place during your labor, birth and after delivery.
Having a birth plan will be a quite reminder to yourself and the hospital staff of your wishes. While one of the most important things is to have a good open relationship with the provider you choose having a birth plan will ensure that if your provider isn’t present anyone who opens your file will have access to your wishes and request. Most of the time we ask for recommendations from our friends and family and just go with what they say but sometimes it’s not a one size fits all. It is ok to keep looking until you find a provider that you are comfortable with. It is definitely ok to fire a provider who isn’t want you want or doesn’t provide the service you want.
I have personally met some providers that just don’t work for me. I just feel that bond with them that my friends say they have. I have been lucky to find providers who I trust and feel comfortable to ask questions. I can call or text with my questions and hear back. I am not told I am overreacting or need to relax even when I may be overreacting.
Let me back track a bit. When pregnant with Faith eight and a half years ago, I was recommended to see this “amazing” doctor. Let’s just say he wasn’t that amazing. The few times I went he was always in a hurry. He spent maybe 5 minutes in the room and never answered our questions.
There was this one time, well the last time I was in his office that I asked this doctor to explain to Julio and being RH- meant and the RhoGAM shot. Keep in mind this is before I knew the “crunchy” world, before I knew anything about being a parent. His answer to us was “I will tell you when it’s time”.
I was so confused by his answer I mean isn’t the time when the patient is asking? Isn’t part of your responsibility as a doctor to answer questions? Shouldn’t your patients feel some comfort when you walk in the room? He never answered and we never went back.
Once I found the right provider I didn’t care to have a birth plan because I was comfortable. The moment I walked into the birth center to give birth I felt this overwhelming comfort come over me. I knew I was in the right place. I knew I was about to have my dream birth.
Although everything about my birth with Faith went amazing and she was born at the birth center like planned, things can happen plans can change. I encourage you to download the birth plan I have created.
So, go ahead and download the guide here.
What is something you have added to your birth plan?